During the planning of a wedding, everyone experiences stress. It can fuel fights, ruin budgets, hurt friends and alienate families. One of the most careful steps in planning your wedding should be intermittent reminders that it is, after all, “just a wedding.”

While some choose to sweat out frustration, others simply need a calm place to clear the mind. If your fiancé seems stressed, tune into his or her method of dealing with it and plan an activity accordingly.

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The Active Adrenaline Junkie

1. Rent bikes or a Jet Ski for an afternoon

2. Take a Martial Arts class

3. A day of demolition (They may not have this in your city, but if you live in NYC and are planning a wedding – we highly suggest it)

4. Rock climbing

5. Organize a Frisbee golf game with friends

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The Quiet & Considerate

1. Hot Air balloon ride

2. Private couples yoga class

3. Private tour with a curator of a local museum

4. Plan a scavenger hunt through your city with a surprise at the end

5. Spa (While this three-letter word might seem commonplace, you have never, ever heard someone utter the words “Damn, I wish you hadn’t given me that free massage.” Enough said).

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The Consummate Student

1. Get scuba certified

2. Take a photography course together

3. Guitar lessons

4. Sign up for a Mixology 101 class

5. Take a language course for the country you plan to visit on the honeymoon

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The Nurturer

1. Plant a garden in the backyard or on the patio

2. Plan a day of charity together

3. Take a niece, nephew or younger sibling to the park or the zoo

4. Take one of your in-laws out for lunch

5. Buy a puppy or kitten that can grow as your relationship does. No time or space? Try something smaller like a hamster, goldfish, or a Bonsai tree. (Hint: Puppies are way cuter and more fun than Bonsai trees)

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More Acts Of Kindness: The Gift of Time

One of the kindest things you can give a stressed out fiancé is more free personal time. Take a thing or two off the to-do lists, make a little space in each others lives to hang out with friends, relax with a book or even plan more activities for the honeymoon – something you both can get behind.

1. Have the car detailed professionally

2. Get the pets groomed

3. Stock the fridge with favorite food items (Don’t forget a cute note behind the surprise bottle of Champagne in the fridge door)

4. Hire a professional organizer for those closets that are overflowing

5. Hire an in-home chef to cook dinner on a random Monday evening